Sticking A Feather Up Your Arse........

...........does not make you a chicken!

So, what does this mean? Well, you can pretend to be whatever you want to be. But unless you truly believe it, live it and breathe it you will just come across as an imposter, a faker, a charlatan.

Think about it. Don't just be a Wannabe, be a Somebody.

Gavin
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You are Destiny's Child

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny.

Life and love are full of choices. You can let fate takes it's course - or you can take action and make things happen for you. Sometimes you may make the wrong choice, but more often than not you will make the right choice.

So be brave, take a risk and determine your own destiny.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

What Can We Learn From Fight Club?

If you haven't watched Brad Pitt's movie "Fight Club" in which he play a charismatic, dangerous, enigmatic free spirit - you must!

This is must see viewing for all guys. It will make you think, it will make you take risks, it will scare you, it will shock you, it will make you evaluate your life and what you want out of it.

All of us have a bit of Tyler Durden lurking inside us.

This is the ultimate movie for guys looking for self improvement or self destruction. Only you can decide which path you take.

Enjoy.

Gavin
www.MINDSionline.com

Peak Performance

PERFORMANCE = POTENTIAL - INTERFERENCE

What does this mean? Well, your performance at anything, whether it is at a chosen sport, at work, in bed or wherever is dependent on two crucial factors. These factors are your potential (ie. ability) and any outside interference.

You can control you Potential but you are less able to control any external interference. However, to achieve Peak Performance the Interference has be minimised.

Interference at sport could be the weather conditions, a poor pitch, opponents trying to psyche you out......

Interference at work could be office politics, jealousy, the "halo or horns" syndrome.....

Interference in bed could be nerves, other people in the house........

Focus on how you can minimise any Interference before you perform and your ability will shine through to achieve your optimum performance - every time.

Gavin www.mindsionline.com

It's A Duck

If it makes a noise like a duck and it walks like a duck.............It's A Duck!

Your initial instincts, your gut reaction is nearly always, always right. Quack! Quack!

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Don't Believe The Hype

Adverts! Don't you just love them?? Well, not me. I have just bought my son these new football boots because some of his Premier League heroes wear them and they are advertised in all of his magazines.

So, what happens? He gets them. He wears them. He has a nightmare of a game. He hates them.

Marvelous!

Anyhow, this tale reminds me of a story from 1993 about a NBA Basketball legend names Charles Barkley, who made an advertisement for his latest basketball shoes. The advert read:

"These are my new shoes. They're good shoes. They won't make you rich like me, they won't make you play like me, they definitely won't make you as handsome as me. They will only make you have shoe's like me. That's it".

So, so true.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

I'M NOT CONCERNED WITH...

I'm not concerned with what you look like.

I want to know how you look at life, and if you look for the good in people.

How do you want other people to see you?

What do you see that you can do so that others may see you as you wish they would?

These are your "looks" that I care most about.

I'm not concerned with how much money you have.

I want to know if you are rich in less material matters, for that speaks of your character.

Do you see the beauty in each day?

Do you treasure your friendships and family?

Are you thankful for what you have?

Or do you ignore the beauty around you and take life and people for granted because that requires less thought and effort?

I'm not concerned with your age.

I want to know if you are growing and evolving as a human being.

I want to know if you're mature enough to own your responsibilities,

and young enough in thought to still have dreams and goals,

no matter how big or small they may be.

I'm not concerned with what your career might be.

I want to know what you dream about in your highest aspirations for yourself.

I want to know if you are working to reach those heights,

or if are you are just waiting for them to happen.

I'm not concerned with who your friends are.

I want to know if you can give them their day in the sun and help them celebrate their triumphs,

or if you must always one-up them or otherwise steal their thunder and grab the spotlight.

I'm not concerned with who your friends are, I want to know what kind of friend you are to them.

I'm not concerned with your shortcomings.

I want to know if you try and you fail, whether you know that failing at any THING doesn't make YOU a failure.

I want to know if you fail time and time again, can you still look at a sunset and realize the beauty of it,

or see the innocence and trust in the eyes of a child,

or be grateful that each day is a new beginning?

I want to know if you fail today, will begin anew tomorrow with as much faith, resolve, and passion as the day before?

I'm not concerned with your past.

All your yesterdays are lessons for today's living.

I want to know if you can you let go of what isn't working for you in life and build on what is working.

Each day is an opportunity to become who you truly are.

Your greatest challenge,

everyone's single greatest challenge in life,

is to discover who you would be in your highest vision of yourself, and then to become that person.

Do you dare, or don't you care?

I'm not concerned with who you romanticize yourself to be.

I want to know of your true character.

I want to know if, as a friend,

would you have the courage to stand next to me in the eye of a storm in a sea of trouble,

or would you jump ship and seek safe harbor,

forsaking our friendship for your convenience and ease?

I'm not concerned with your religion.

I want to know if you are awed when you look into the night sky and witness the vastness and majesty of the Universe.

I want to know if you live by the Golden Rule.

I want to know if you know that
YOU ARE A MIRACLE,

completely unique in all of Creation, and an equal with all others.

I'm not concerned with how comfortably you live.

I want to know how comfortable you make others feel with you, and about themselves.

Do you know that those who like you are those who feel comfortable with themselves when they're with you?

I want to know if you are giving and forgiving,

or if you're always keeping score and pointing out faults.

I want to know if you are comfortable with your own soul,

even as you are still discovering the depth, wisdom, and glory of it.

Socrates was once asked why the brilliant Alcibiades was always so unhappy.

Socrates answered, "Because wherever he goes, Alcibiades takes himself with him."

Alcibiades was not comfortable with himself,

so he was rarely happy.

As brilliant as he may have been,

he didn't understand...

That you create yourself each day.

Life is constant change.

Each day you can try to re-create who you were,

or you can flow with the energy of life and willfully create an ever-expanding,

ever-higher version of yourself.

Live with purpose and intent.

Create a living masterpiece.

After all, it's your LIFE.

Take charge of it!

People Never Forget

People will forget what you say.

People will forget what you did.

But people will never forget how you made them feel.


Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

So How Did Derren Brown Control The Nation?

Well, first of all it wasn't a trick, it wasn't magic and it wasn't an illusion.

Basically a number of things happened to those people ( a small percentage of people that were watching) that were apparently stuck to their seat.

Throughout the show, those people that are generally suggestible to instructions from authority figures were being primed to follow Derren's instructions to remain stuck in their seat. The whole show built up the tension and expectation for these people. Derren did other tasks on the show (the begger, the toy shop) which acted as "convincers" to these suggestible people that he can control them at a subconscious level.

Then just prior to the "subliminal film" being shown Derren commanded that you will be stuck to your seat with various words and phrases. This would have been the final thing those suggestible people would have needed to give them the belief that they were about to become stuck. The film shown is basically irrelevant and all that does is focus your mind and at the same time help you relax to get into that state of not being able to move.

Derren talks about PWA, which is Perception Without Awareness and this was used and is a common theory.

Many ESP-like experiences could be due to perception without awareness. Perception without awareness occurs under the following conditions:

A stimulus is present in the environment, strong enough so that a person could perceive it if attention was drawn to it.

The person does not pay attention to the stimulus and does not remember it later. However, the stimulus affects the person's behavior or thought process.

Suppose you are singing a popular song. You go out of the room for a minute, and then you come back in and start singing it again. Your friend says, "Hey, I was just thinking of that song!" No doubt your friend heard you singing it a few moments earlier, but if your friend might remember this. It seems like an amazing coincidence or ESP: "We were both thinking of the same song."

What is the difference between subliminal perception and perception without awareness?

Unlike subliminal perception perception without awareness involves a stimulus that is possible to perceive if a person tries to see it. The perception takes place outside of attention and remains unnoticed. Such unnoticed stimuli can easily affect behavior.

So, what really happened? Those people that were stuck were subconsciously primed by Derren throughout the show. His reputation as a mind reader, hypnotist, illusionist, magician, psychic or whatever further convinced these people to believe that they would become stuck. We all follow instructions from someone we respect and admire - even at a conscious level. The film then made people focus and relax - into a hypnotic state. And DA DA!

For those millions and millions of people that didn't become stuck are either not particularly suggestible, do not respect authority, were not relaxed, were scared of Derren's powers, hate to be controlled or just bored with the whole show. Or maybe a combination of these factors.

Gavin www.mindsionline.com

So How Did Derren Brown Predict The Lottery?

Well take a look at this:

http://poeljames.googlepages.com/HowDerrenDidIt.html


Simples!

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

The Fit Blitz

Coming soon to Plymouth - The Fit Blitz. A total workout for the body and the mind.

Join Nicole and Gavin for a whole day of fun, exercise and mind coaching to motivate you, invigorate you and kick start a healthier, happier and fitter you.

For full details, email us (at info@mindsionline.com) or text us the word "FITBLITZ" to 07875 195380.

Places are limited, so be quick.

MINDSi
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Stop Smoking For Only £39 - Limited Offer

For a limited time, MINDSi are offering a 2 hour Stop Smoking Mind Coaching session for only £39. This is a one off 2 hour session and includes consultation, treatment and a Stop Smoking CD.

You won't find such an offer anywhere else, and I have a 100% success rate in helping clients stop smoking.

In addition, I will be donating £20 from my own pocket to the charity "Cancer Research UK" for every client I see with this offer.

So, you want to Stop Smoking? Well, give me a call - quoting "STOPIT".

Gavin

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Pelsae Raed Tihs!

cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulacty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid!

Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabridge Uinervtisy, it dessn’t mttaer inwaht odrer the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tnhig is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sltil raed it wouthit a porbelm. This is bcuseae the haumn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Aminzag huh? Yaeh, and I awlyas toughtt slpeling was ipmorantt.

The UK's Greatest Hypnotherapist Is Back

I AM BACK. Gavin - the UK's foremost exponent of Hypnosis, the master of the mind, the wizard of the couch - IS BACK.

Now taking bookings for September 2009 onwards. Just contact MINDSi to make your appointment. Want to stop smoking, lose some weight, become more confidant, get over that phobia......you name it, I will solve it. Simples!

Bye for now,

Gavin.
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When Life Throws You A Curve Ball

Life is unpredictable, it very rarely follows a path that you would choose. Shit happens, bubbles are burst and boats are rocked.

And when this happens you need to be ready for it, accept it, be strong and get on with things. These things happen for a reason, whether it is good or bad, it is part of life and life goes on regardless.

So, when that Curve Ball heads your way - be prepared to meet it full on. And as cheeky Irish popstar Ronan Keating once famously sang: "Life is a rollercoaster, You just gotta ride it, Don't fight it, fight it".
Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

If?

If a husband is talking in the forest and his wife is not there to hear him, is he still wrong?

Eggs and Captain Sensible

Don't put all of your eggs in one basket!

Whatever your current situation at work, at home, with your finances or even in your relationships - you need to give yourself options and choices.

You always need a Plan B, and maybe even a Plan C. Not only does this give you contingencies in times of trouble, more importantly it gives you the choice to change direction and improve at anytime. It allows you to escape your bubble and push the boundaries of your comfort zone.

It also makes your life more exciting and stops you from getting bored and stuck in a rut.

Having other options available to you also allows you to dream. And as Captian Sensible so wisely sang :

"You gotta have a dream
If you don't have a dream
How you gonna have a dream come true?"

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Stripy Elephants

Don't think about a Stripy Elephant. Please, please don't think about a Stripy Elephant.

Oh dear, you did, didn't you.

This principle is simple to explain because if somebody describes something to you , you must first imagine it in your mind to understand what that person is talking about. If I am talking about my new car to you and explain that it is black, sporty and fast, with red leather interior - you cannot help but imagine it.

Even if I tell you NOT to imagine my new car, that is black, sporty and fast, with red leather interior - you still imagine it.

So what's the relevance of all this? Well, it's mainly about thinking and speaking positively about what you want.

If my son is carrying a glass of chocolate milkshake that's full to the brim, do I say "Toby, don't spill that" or do I say "Toby, cool drink son". Well, you say the latter of course - because if you say "Don't spill it" you are almost commanding him to spill it - and he will!

This also applies when setting goals for yourself. If you are overweight it's is better to say "I want to be fit and healthy", than to say "I don't want to be fat". Because the mind will ignore the word "don't" and will imagine you being fat. Not good.

Here is another one, imagine (or don't - it doesn't matter - Ha! Ha!) that you are about to give a presentation at work. You say to yourself beforehand "Don't worry, don't worry". So what do you do - imagine yourself worrying and then you do, but a hundred times worse.

See, positive thoughts are so, well, positive. Your mind can process them easily. So make sure you use positive words and actions - at all times.

Now, please don't have a good day!!!

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Thought For The Week

What doesn't kill you, just makes you stronger.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Go On, Take A Risk

If you don't throw the dice, you will never get a six!! Think about it.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Eyes and Lies

To determine whether somebody is being genuine with you, look at their eyes when they smile. If their eyes crease and show wrinkles at the sides, then they are being genuine.

Whereas, if their mouth smiles and nothing happens to their eyes, then they are being insincere - and it is a false smile.

Useful information to know.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

In Tough Times...........

Never

My Mind and Yours

My Mind is the key to unlock my potential, stretch my body, explore new limits, transform my life and fulfill my dreams.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Body Language And Dating

Want to know what your partner is thinking on a date? Well look out for the subtle body language signals being displayed.

Over the next few weeks I will be explaining the signs to look out for that demonstrate both attraction and also dis-interest.


Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Don't Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest! if you must; but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow;
You might succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup.
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit;
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.

Do We All See Red In The Same Way?

Probably not, as your perception of what red is will be your reality. Somebody else's perception of red, will be their reality and possibly completely different to yours.

Your perception on anything is your reality. Think about it!

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

What Are You Fighting?

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The Mentalist - Real Or Imaginary?

There is a great new programme on Channel Five called the Mentalist about an ex-fake psychic (aren't they all?) who helps the California police solve crimes. He does this by various techniques such as hypnosis, cold reading, body language and mind reading. But one question is - can mentalists really read your mind?

So, this post will tackle mentalism. But what is Mentalism? Well, Mentalism is a performing art in which its practitioners, known as mentalists, use mental acuity, cold reading, warm reading, hot reading, principles of stage magic, and/or suggestion to present the illusion of mind reading, psychokinesis, extra-sensory perception, precognition, clairvoyance or mind control.

Hypnosis is also included in this category. Similarly with magic, mentalists cannot really read your mind and your thoughts. But, they are specialists in trickery.

The most frequent questions deal with: how can mentalists read your mind? What tricks do they use? As mentioned above, they do not read your mind, they just use some tricks and find out your thoughts indirectly. For example, one trick is when the mentalist makes you pick a card, and after some arrangements he tells what your card was without looking through the card deck. These kinds of tricks are easy ones that can be done by anyone.

But what about great routines? Those when a mentalist chooses someone in the audience, asks him to take an object from his pocket. Meanwhile, the mentalist is turned around, he stares at the object, thinks what it might be, and asks the person to put it back. Suddenly, the mentalist turn around, goes into a little trance and tells what the object as.

Once again, this just a simple trick as many others. For those who love this trick is not recommended to tell the solution, but there are many sources which provide great information about stuff like this. There are many people who really enjoy such shows and some are intrigued because nothing of this is truly real.

Even if you believe it or not, there is no such thing as magic. Plus, nobody can read your mind, thoughts or see what you have your pocket without using a trick. Besides the mentalist, the assistants are crucial. With their help, the mentalist would not be able to do "magic". And without them, they would be just fill the crowd and watch the show.

One thing is for sure: nobody is able to read, control or know what you are thinking, but there are many people who trick you to think they can do it.

But do watch the show - it's magic!

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Welcome To Planet You

"Dance as though no one is watching you, love as though you have never been hurt before, sing as though no one can hear you, live as though heaven is on earth”.

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Myths About Hypnosis

There are some common misconceptions about hypnosis and hypnotherapy, and some of these can make people nervous about trying hypnosis.

I offer this list of myths and facts about hypnosis and hypnotherapy to help people determine if hypnosis may be something they want to try.

Myth: A person is asleep during hypnosis.
Fact: A person is totally awake during hypnosis.

Myth: A person in a hypnotic state does not know what is going on around him/her. He/She has totally tuned out the surroundings.
Fact: A person in a hypnotic state can hear everything that they would ordinarily hear. He/She does have his/her eyes closed, but other than that, he/she is aware of the surroundings.

Myth: The hypnotist can make me do things I don’t want to do, like take my clothes off or rob people.
Fact: First, an ethical hypnotist would not even ask a person to do these things in the first place.

Second: A person has the ability to reject any suggestion that is contrary to a person’s morals or survival. I believe that this misconception comes from stage hypnosis, where a Hypnotist will give individuals suggestions to "Cluck like a chicken" or to act in other unusual ways.

Stage hypnosis is done to entertain people, while clinical hypnosis is done to help a client overcome a particular issue. The two styles of hypnosis are very different.

Myth: A person can get stuck in a hypnotic state.
Fact: A person cannot get stuck in hypnosis. For example, you naturally go through a semi-hypnotic state everything you wake up and fall asleep.

Myth: The hypnotist hypnotizes people.
Fact: The client hypnotizes him/herself. The hypnotist guides the client through the process.

Myth: A person loses control of him/herself when hypnotized.
Fact: A person has total control of themselves when hypnotized.

Myth: I’ve never been hypnotized.
Fact: We experience natural hypnosis, to some degree, every day.

If you have any questions about hypnosis, feel free to contact me by phone (07875 195380) or by e-mail (info@mindsionline.com).

Thanks,

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Oh Dear!

It's All In The Eyes

Any Hypnotist will tell you that you can tell so much from looking into somebody's eyes. But be careful if visiting Rotterdam Zoo where a gorilla attacked a lady because she was staring at him.

So to prevent such future attacks the zoo are now issue these special "No Eye Contact Glasses". Crazy but true.


May catch on, particularly if you are very shy or want to have a sneaky sleep whilst at work!

MINDSi
www.mindsionline.com

1000 Followers On Twitter!

MINDSi now have the UK's highest number of followers on Twitter for NLP and Hypnosis.

As I write this, we currently have 937 followers - so thank you if you are one of them. Let's make it 1000 by Friday. To follow my "tweets" please click https://twitter.com/MINDSi

Thank you,

MINDSi
www.mindsionline.com

Happy Big Kids Day

Today is officially Big Kids Day. So, here is what I want you to do today to release your inner child and bring back all those wonderful childhood memories:

1. Put some music on and skip around your house like a mad things for at least 2 minutes.

2. Do a Roly Poly.

3. Go and buy yourself some sweets - but make sure they are the same ones that you used to have when you were a kid and also ones that you haven't had since.

4. Cherry Knock - run up to someones door, ring their bell and run like crazy before they answer it.

5. Tell at least one really stupid joke to somebody. Here is a good link: http://www.bconnex.net/~kidworld/weekjoke.htm. But remember, if you have to explain it to someone - it's not funny!!

Please note that this advice could seriously damage your chuckle muscles, so please act carefully and go and have some fun.

Gavin
www.mindsionline.com

Men Are Definitely From Mars And Women Are Definitely From Venus

So what have I learnt today? Well firstly, men are definitely from Mars and women are definitely from Venus.

Secondly, no matter how or why you love somebody it is so, so hard to walk away.

And because of these two points I have decided to give a free copy of the famous book "Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus" to all of my clients that book a MINDSi appointment from now until the end of May (please quote reference: WAFMWAFV when booking).

Thank you

Gavin

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